I appreciate when people take the time to comment on my photos, though I don't always appreciate the comment itself, when someone comments on my level of skills or the way I present a photo I appreciate it very much. But when someone makes a negative personal comment about a model, I take it very much to heart and I feel very hurt by it.
The Way It Should Be
When I first started working with models and before I was shooting nudes I received a couple of personal negative comments, something to the effect that I needed to find better looking models. At first I took this with a grain of salt because I was working with good looking models, but then I realized something vital, it wasn't the models I was working with, it was the way I was capturing them. I didn't need to find better looking models, I need to take better photos of them!
So last night I happened upon a comment left on one of my images in a model's portfolio, while the comment was actually positive, it was also quite personal and descriptively graphic. And points out just how much people can look at the exact same thing and see it quite differently, it reminded me of a line from the 1989 movie "Look Who's Talking". John Travolta's character and Mikey (the baby), are looking directly at Kristie Alley's breasts and John says, "are you thinkin' what I'm thinkin'?" Mikey responds "Yeah. Lunch!"
When I post a photo, some will like it, some will dislike it and some just don't care, everyone will see it differently, comments and opinions are as useful as you allow them to be. Once the photo is out there it's no longer about me, the model, the subject or the scene, it's all about the viewer.